Blue: sky, melancholy, wisdom
Yellow: school bus, sunshine, joy
Orange: Pumpkin, tropics, creativity
Red: Princes' corvette, blood, passion
Black: black widow, mourning, power
White: light, goodness, perfection
We associate color with nearly everything day to day, culturally and emotionally. What we wear can speak volumes, without saying a word. The French wear black because its fashionable and flattering- the staple norm with no more significance than what they ate (or didn't eat) for breakfast. The Kalash women in Pakistan have worn black for centuries, in honor of the "black prince." In Portugal when women wear black, it means they have lost the person nearest and dearest to their heart, and they continue to wear black daily until they are reunited. Several cultures follow this custom... in general, widows wear black to signify mourning.
Today is Father's Day. Today was an unforgettable day. Did I have an amazing time with my Pops? Unfortunately no. There were actually no fathers involved. Just an extraordinary group of women. Women who lost their husbands in the September 11th attack, and the children whom they were pregnant with during that horrific time, ten years ago. The children who will only meet their father in photographs and in stories.
Robert Cumin's photograph |
The mood in the Greenwich Village studio was considerably upbeat. Pro stylists primped the women and kids while an extremely well-known photographer and his team prepped. The women wore black, not only signifying mourning and loss, but more importantly power and strength. They deserve medals of honor and bravery just as much as their husbands who were on a plane, in Tower 2 or fighting fires.
The children wore white. They looked like angels standing solo in front of the concrete wall, holding mementos and beaming with pride- extremely touching coming from a ten year old. One little girl cradled a locket with her Dad's photo, a permanent fixture around her neck. Another hugged a fire fighter helmet, while boy wore his father's badges and medals of honor, appointed by the President. Looking on through the somber space while mothers wiped bittersweet tears away, was indescribably moving.
Photo by Erica Berger |
Later this afternoon, I sat under a tree in Riverside Park overlooking the Hudson to reflect on my day. I looked down the hill and saw a group of women and children having a picnic. There were no men. Perhaps none of them were married, or all of their husbands were out of town coincidentally. But I don't think so. Though not in their own making, it was a sisterhood, and it was powerful to witness. I realized how much so many lost on that catastrophic day. Not only were their sons and uncles and brothers lost, but wives and cousins and grandmothers and friends. It demonstrated life's fragility and provides a constant reminder to never take people for granted. Make sure you tell the people you love how much you love them. And often. It's never too late until it is too late.
Happy Father's Day to all you Papa Bears out there, mine especially. I love you dearly and am so, so fortunate and blessed. To those who have lost loved ones, especially your Dad, hold them near and dear in your heart and know you are loved.
Nap time with Dad, 1984 |
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